Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts

How To Make Boss-Employee Relationships Flourish


How To Make Boss-Employee Relationships Flourish - It is an archetype we've seen in the movies all too often: the boss who rules over his army of employees with an iron fist. Maybe you have even experienced it personally. When your superior looks at Glengarry Glen Ross as a management how-to, your morale is almost immediately in the dumps.

So how do you come off to your own employees? And how can you make it better?

According to Businessweek, it might help to think of the boss-employee relationship as being characterized by a set of promises. The boss, acting as employer, promises a degree of security and safety, such as health insurance and income, the resources to perform jobs, such as computers and a workspace, and opportunities for advancement in the company. In return, the employee promises the use of his skills and experience to do good work for the business.

It sounds like an agreeable arrangement, but things like personality quirks and external stresses can make negotiating day-to-day work life tricky. The key is to figure out how to get over these hurdles, which will seem quite tiny in hindsight. Watch what happens when your work relationships improve and everyone is firing on all cylinders at once. As the head of the company, this is absolutely a power you have at your disposal—so figure out how to access it.

Businessweek offers three suggestions to help make sure that your employees think highly of you and want to do good work.


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1. Be transparent

Your employees want to know what's going on. Talk them through your thought process on different matters and let them know how things are going for the company in general. They can handle it. And if they're there for the right reasons, they will demonstrate an active interest in it.


2. Offer inexpensive perks

You do not need to be Google and do free laundry on-site or add a huge cafeteria with free food for every dietary need. Simple things like cookies at lunch or the one-time purchase of a communal ping-pong table will go far.


3. Consider how the things you do affect your employees

Quantum mathematician Michael Nielsen said, "A change in perspective is worth 80 IQ points." When you act in a way that takes your employees into consideration, rest assured that it's noticed. It can be a great motivational tool—people are quick to see when they're being tread upon, but they're even quicker to see when someone is acting out of consideration for them.

When you put these three plans into play, it will generate an environment that fosters excellent relationships not just among coworkers, but also between bosses and their employees as well. And if you hope to lead the pack in your industry, you need everyone at work gunning hard and playing for keeps.

Once again: As the head of the company, you have the power to make this happen. ( openforum.com )


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Ideas for a Small Business With Little Money


Ideas for a Small Business With Little Money - There are many ideas for starting a small business with little money. There are online options and businesses that are better suited as offline ventures. The following ideas work well on either a full-time or part-time basis and are popular choices for parents, students and anyone in need of increasing his income.


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Ideas for a Small Business With Little Money


Online Auctions
  • An online auction business can be started for next to nothing when you own a lot of items that are no longer useful to you. If you go this route, your initial costs will only be auction fees. You can also start out inexpensively by purchasing items at yard sales or thrift shops. Consider re-investing a portion of your early profits on additional merchandise.

    Get free shipping supplies from the USPS website or your local post office. This includes Priority Mail shipping boxes, envelopes and packaging tape. Make the shipping process even simpler by purchasing a digital scale to weigh items and printing out postage at home. Depending on your location, free mail pick-up service is a possibility. Taking advantage of the service means fewer trips to the post office.

Flea Markets

  • Setting up a flea market booth is another good small business idea if you are working with limited funds. There are indoor and outdoor flea market options. If you own a variety of items that are just collecting dust, clean them up and take them to the market. You can use some of these profits to buy new products.

    Booths or tables can typically be rented on a weekly or monthly basis. Many first-time vendors choose to rent weekly until they are sure that this is something they want to pursue long term. Display items at eye level, when possible. Be prepared to barter. Many seasoned flea market shoppers won't buy unless they can do so for lower than the advertised price.

Attic and Garage Cleaning Service

  • Almost every home has an attic, a garage or both. Many homeowners don't have the time or desire to clean them. The ideal remedy is an attic and garage cleaning service. Hauling and recycling services are also an option.

    This business is simple to set up. All that is necessary is various cleaning supplies and a small advertising budget. A trailer or truck will be required if hauling services are requested. Many people who pay for garage cleaning services do so on a regular basis, typically yearly. This means repeat business with no advertising effort on your part. ( eHow.com )



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Small Business Ideas That Require Little or No Money


Small Business Ideas That Require Little or No Money - Being an entrepreneur does not have to break the bank. Since laptops, Internet connections and e-commerce have become commonplace, considering a small business operated from home is easier than ever, according to the experts at Entrepreneur Magazine. Sit back, sip a cup of coffee and start a small business with existing capital and less than $1,500 in savings. After all, 20 percent of small-business ventures begin in the home.


  • If calculators and number crunching create a smile, become a home-based accountant and tax preparer. Use the old accounting degree to prepare tax returns for individuals. Accountants can also reconcile the books for small businesses and prepare annual reports for busy independent contractors. A reliable Internet-connected computer, accounting software and a fax machine enables most accounting-based business transactions.

Cleaning Services

  • Make clients happy by cleaning up after them. Invest in basic cleaning supplies, research reliable cleaning methods and market your cleaning services for reasonable rates. Posting fliers at grocery stores, daycare centers, church bulletin boards and in school lobbies will garner the attention of busy parents that could use some tidying around the house.

Repair Service

  • Being handy can make you money. Having the ability to troubleshoot electronics, shore up old fences or repair junior's bicycle can turn a hobby into a business. Prepare to spend a little cash on an ad in the local phone book. Follow up by building a tool bag (possibly from existing tools) and advertising for free on Internet discussion boards and social networking sites.

Selling Online

  • Make a profession out of recycling used treasures and selling them online. After creating accounts with several online auction websites, clean the house. Collect unused items, antiques and unopened gifts to re-sell. On the weekends head to rummage sales, yard sales and auctions to purchase bargains for re-sale on the Internet. Start-up costs include postage, website fees, Internet connection fees and money to go shopping for items.

Event Planning

  • If planning the annual holiday gathering rates low on the personal stress-o-meter, start a business in event planning. Brides, family reunion hosts and children preparing for their parent's anniversary celebration could all use a little help. Planning meals, finding event locations and creating unique decoration ideas top the list of a home-based event planner. Before opening an event planning business gather local resources, make contacts with caterers and venues, and invest in an electronic organizer. ( ehow.com )


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Royal Honeymoon Rumors and Related April Fools' Hoaxes for William, Kate


Royal Honeymoon Rumors and Related April Fools' Hoaxes for William, Kate - With all the secrecy surrounding the nuptials of Prince William and Kate, wedding information speculators and even bookmakers are grasping for straws. Who will design the royal wedding dress? More importantly, what is the locale where the prince's and former Kate Middleton's royal honeymoon will take place?


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Possible Locales

  • The Seychelles. They are a group of 115 islands situated in the Indian Ocean. Holidays Please claims unnamed insider sources revealed to a staff member what the business terms "one of the worst kept secrets." Apparently Desroches Island (of the Amirante Islands) and the very private North Island are high in the running for welcoming the royal couple after the nuptials.

  • Kenya. Would you believe bookmakers are taking odds on the royal honeymoon? The New Zealand Herald claims that while New Zealand comes in at 25-1, Kenya is the favorite among the bet takers. Seeing that Prince William and Kate Middleton have some history of traveling there, it stands to reason that Kenya would be in the running.

  • Australia. Was it more than just a PR move when Prince William exclaimed: "I will have to come back, maybe we'll have a honeymoon in Cairns?" The Telegraph seems to think so. Touring Cardwell near the storm-ravaged Cairns, he was working the crowds. Was he just joking or did he let some plans slip?

Known Spoofs (or are they?)

  • Scotland. After William and Kate's wedding, they are scheduled to fly to Scotland, using the names Mr. and Mrs. Wales. So says Travelio, which cites easyJet as a premier source. Citing the importance that Scotland has for the relationship of Prince William and Kate Middleton -- and pointing out that Queen Elizabeth II flew easyJet just last year -- the airline is convinced that the April 30 flight of Mr. and Mrs. Wales can be none other than William and Kate. This tidbit of news turned out to be an April Fools' joke.

  • Herm. It is a tiny island that is part of the Channel Islands. The Guernsey News proclaims that for Prince William and the former Kate Middleton, royal honeymooning begins with a weekend on the isle. Again, this news was revealed to be an April Fools' hoax.

  • Nepal . One of the most elaborate April Fools' hoaxes involving the royal honeymoon (thus far) is the one put on by The Himalayan. The publication asserted that the "mystical and romantic charm" of the locale had done in the royal couple and that a contact named "Lowbrow Pinkelton" was making all the arrangements. ( news. yahoo.com )


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Elizabeth Taylor late for her own funeral


Elizabeth Taylor late for her own funeral - True to the sense of humor and flair that defined her life, Elizabeth Taylor knew exactly how she wanted her final starring role to play out.

Her publicist tells Lifeline Live in a statement that Taylor wanted to be late for her own funeral:


The service was scheduled to begin at 2 pm but at Miss Taylor's request started late. Miss Taylor had left instructions that it was to begin at least 15 minutes later than publicly scheduled, with the announcement, "She even wanted to be late for her own funeral."



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Family members leave the Forest Lawn Memorial Park in Glendale, California after the funeral of screen legend Elizabeth Taylor, March 24, 2011.


The multi-denominational service, officiated by Rabbi Jerry Cutler at Forest Lawn Cemetery in Glendale, Calif., lasted about an hour. Taylor, who died Wednesday at age 79, was laid to rest in the Great Mausoleum, beneath a soaring marble Michelangelo angel with family and close friends in attendance. Taylor is not right next to Michael Jackson, but near him.

The casket was closed and draped with a blanket of abundant, fragrant gardenias, violets, and lily of the valley.


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This Feb. 16, 1997 file photo shows Elizabeth Taylor arriving with Michael Jackson at the Pantages Theater in Los Angeles for her birthday celebration.


The ceremony included poetry readings that began with close friend Colin Farrell reciting Gerard Manley Hopkins' poem The Leaden Echo and the Golden Echo, immediately followed with other selections by Miss Taylor's son Michael Wilding, her grandson Tarquin Wilding, and her daughter Liza Burton Tivey. Grandson Rhys Tivey performed a moving trumpet solo of Amazing Grace.

Taylor's publicist said any details of a memorial service would likely be announced at a later date.

In New York tonight, marquees of Broadway theatres will be dimmed in her memory at exactly 8:00 p.m. for one minute. ( usatoday.com )



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10-Year-Old Girl Discovers Supernova


10-Year-Old Girl Discovers Supernova - It may have only appeared as a tiny, glowing spot hovering over a distant galaxy, but the sight made a precocious 10-year-old amateur astronomer the youngest person ever to have detected the stellar explosion known as a supernova.

Kathryn Aurora Gray of Fredericton, New Brunswick in Canada discovered the supernova explosion in a galaxy, called UGC 3378, within the faint constellation of Camelopardalis. The galaxy is approximately 240 million light-years away.

"I'm really excited. It feels really good," Gray told the Toronto Star.


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Ten-year-old Kathryn Gray sits next to a computer at the family's home in Birdton, New Brunswick, Canada, a suburb of Fredericton, on Monday, Jan. 3, 2011. On the computer monitor is an image in which she discovered a supernova. The Royal Astronomical Society of Canada says she made the discovery on the weekend under the watch of two other astronomers.



Gray made the discovery on Jan. 2 using images that were taken of galaxy UGC 3378 on New Year's Eve. The supernova was then verified by Illinois-based amateur astronomer Brian Tieman and Arizona-based amateur astronomer Jack Newton, who then reported it to the International Astronomical Union's Central Bureau for Astronomical Telegrams.

Gray reported the stellar explosion under the supervision of her father, Paul Gray, who has made six prior supernova discoveries, and family friend David Lane, who has found three others himself. The photos of galaxy UGC 3378 were taken using a telescope belonging to Lane.

Supernovas are powerful and violent explosions that signal the deaths of stars several times more massive than our sun. These cosmic blasts are interesting to astronomers because they manufacture most of the chemical elements that went into creating the Earth and other planets. Distant supernovas can also be used to estimate the size and age of our universe.

The last supernova found in our galaxy occurred several hundred years ago, and they are considered relatively rare events. Astronomers can increase their odds of discovering a supernova by repeatedly checking and comparing many different galaxies.

A new supernova reveals itself as a bright point of light that was not present in previous observations. And, since a supernova can outshine millions of ordinary stars, it is often easy to spot one with a modest telescope, even in distant galaxies like UGC 3378.

Despite being the discoverer of this one, Gray didn't get to bestow a name on the object, which is known simply as Supernova 2010lt. ( foxnews.com )


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Living and working with migraine


Living and working with migraine. Migraine is more than just a headache. It's a serious problem that affects six million people in Britain alone and loses 18 million working days each year, costing the nation a staggering £750 million in lost production as a result. So how can sufferers cope with migraines both at work and at home?

Identify triggers Migraine triggers are many and varied, and most often it is a combination of several triggers which starts an attack. Once you identify your trigger factors, look for a pattern, and make minor adjustments to your lifestyle. There are six categories of trigger:

  1. Emotional Stress such as anger, excitement, worry, shock, depression.
  2. Physical Stress, such as a blow to the head, travelling, a change in sleep pattern, bending, changes in routine, and muscle tension.
  3. Alcohol and certain foods such as chocolate, citrus fruits, cheese, fried food; additives such as monosodium glutamate (MSG); or long gaps between meals, fasting or dieting.
  4. Environmental.
  5. Hormonal triggers such as PMT or periods.
  6. Other triggers include taking sleeping tablets, having high blood pressure, dental problems, eye strain or sinus problems.

Watch for warnings Even though some migraines are preceded by an aura, the notion that all migraines have a special warning signal is a myth: only 10pc-15 pc of migraine sufferers experience an aura before a classic migraine attack. If you experience these warnings, make sure you have your medication at hand.

Look at your diet Avoid foods you know you are sensitive to. Keep blood sugar levels stable by eating regularly, avoiding sugary snacks, and eating lots of slow-release carbohydrate foods, such as porridge. Drink at least two litres of water a day.

Get treatment fast Many people find that if they can treat a migraine early enough, even simple over-the-counter remedies such as aspirin or paracetamol can be effective.

Plan with your cycle Many women get hormonally-triggered migraines connected with menstrual cycles. If this happens to you, try to plan your workload to get important jobs done at other times wherever possible.

Have a check-up See your GP - especially if your headaches have been getting worse. You may need to change your medicine if it has become ineffective. If you are worried about the security of your job, it could be important to prove a medical history of migraine.

Take breaks Take all your rest and lunch breaks, don't skip meals, and try not to get overtired. When you have a break, take a walk in the fresh air.

Let your boss know Tell your employer that you suffer from migraines and try to get their support. Flexible working hours can be effective, and will encourage your employer to see that you are not using your illness as an excuse. FOR more information visit the web-sites: www.migrainetrust.org and www.migraine.org.uk ( dailymail.co.uk )



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Do the talk after sex!


Do the talk after sex!, Most couples - know what to say to their partners so as to persuade them for a
sex romp.

But what couples often fail to realise is the importance of after sex conversations that can bind them together even after the act is over. It’s important for couples to relax after an exhaustive performance and nothing can be better than to converse with each other.

Dr. Amit Aggarwal, a Mumbai-based sexologist elucidates, “After sex, couples can lay down in front of each other and indulge in some canoodling. As for conversational topics, they can discuss how good they felt during sex, their most intimate feelings, their sexual desires and their displeasure towards certain gestures by their partners. Basically, the focus of the discussion should be on the things they love most about each other.”

Conversing about one's bedroom performance, sexual desires, sharing feedback or expressing love, here’s a lowdown on the topics that make great after sex discussions.


Discussing bedroom performance :

It’s indeed a wise move to tell your partner about what you liked and disliked about a particular sexual session. Exchanging feedback about your sexual performance will not only make you feel at ease, but will also help you work on the weaker areas where you may be lacking.

Expert tip : Dr. Devesh Roy, a sex expert suggests, “It’s a healthy practice to discuss your performance once you’re done with the act, but do not over analyse the sexual act too much. Also, if you felt your partner lacked somewhere, device a way out to tell them patiently, but never compare their performance with anyone else's or else it will do more harm than good to your relationship.”
Planning another sex quickie :

As the sexual mood continues to be in full swing, nothing can be better than planning out another intimate session. Talking about yet another round of a sex will not only ignite your passion, but will also bring you closer.

Expert tip : Dr. Aggarwal advices, “It’s a great idea to plan another round of sex and if you talk about it openly, it can guarantee you ultimate gratification. During such conversations, make it a point to highlight the things that you liked the most in the previous session. And also mention about the acts you didn’t enjoy, so that your partner knows what to avoid in the next round. Take advantage of this planning by looking out for innovative ways of intimacy that you can experiment with in round two.”
Expressing sexual fantasies :

After a steamy romp, almost all your sexual desires would have been fulfilled by your partner. So go ahead and utilise those intimate moments to express more about your sex fantasies. It’s very likely that your partner, who is still sailing in that sexual mood, would listen to your fancies attentively.

Expert tip : Dr. Chitra Bakshi, a relationship counsellor says, “It’s really not an easy task to talk overtly about your sexual fantasies, not even with your partner. So couples often look out for chances, be it during the foreplay period or during sex. But the most appropriate time would be after sex, as your partner is likely to be in a sexually charged up state of mind to listen to you patiently. You can express those fancies that you would like them to try out, the next time you get intimate.”
Appreciating each other’s body :

Remember that your partner loves being appreciated, not only for their sexual moves, but for their physical appearance and body as well. The most cherished after-sex moments are an apt opportunity to compliment your mate’s body. Telling your mate about the heavenly feeling you get while touching their body and also passing naughty remarks on their curves will surely pamper them.

Expert tip : Dr. Roy opines, “Since sex is all about physical touch, try and utilise these after-sex minutes to say good things about each other’s body. This would create a better comfort zone, bring about a feeling of reassurance to your mate that you like their body and it will make the art of undressing an easier task, as your partner will be more confident about their physical self.”
Exchanging expressions of love :

You’d have said ‘I love you’ to your lover many a times but saying these words right after a sex quickie holds a special place. Verbal or physical gestures like hugging and cuddling, any expression of love can act as a catalyst if expressed at the right time. Once you’re done with a sexual session, whispering some sweet nothings into your partner’s ears can make them feel extra special.

Expert tip : Dr. Chitra confirms, “Exchanging expressions of love is a sure shot way to enjoy passionate moments with your partner. After enjoying sex, most partners fall asleep without even realising once that their mate might be longing for some loving gestures. So make the most of these special moments and indulge in a quick conversation and tell each other how much you love and care about them.” ( indiatimes.com )

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How to meet a man at 40 - ( 3 )


How to meet a man at 40 - ( 3 ). Being Successfully Single : Look, meeting a man is not your only goal in life. It doesn’t keep you awake at night (although it has been known to). But the key to being successfully single is keeping an open mind. You want to exude contentment and confidence, but also avoid giving the impression that you are so pleased with your single life, you wouldn’t give it up for anything, including the right man. It’s all about presentation:


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  • If there is one thing the single woman cannot afford to be, it’s a burden. You must be sunny and amenable, the best guest, the most reliable friend, the tonic at the party and the one who blends in on the family holiday. Precisely because you are not part of a couple, you need to give out the message, loud and clear, that you are no trouble and guaranteed life-enhancing. Being successfully single means having lots of different options and knowing plenty of people who might think, “Yes, bring her along!” rather than, “Maybe not”.
  • People notice single women getting drunk more than they would notice any other demographic. They are waiting for you to get swervy and take to the dancefloor, on your own, clutching a bottle of champagne, and then collapse sobbing on the shoulder of some man who has long since married your best friend. All men over the age of 35 have pretty fixed views about women and drink — not women in general, you understand, but women they could be interested in. They love women who drink. They’re crazy about wild party girls. But they are all petrified of a genuinely drunk woman. Uninhibited is good. Determined to dance is good. Singing is good. Stumbling is less good. Slurring is worse. Shouty and argumentative is not good. Legs buckling is bad. Weepy is bad. Sick on floor is really bad. He decided not to call you, by the way, at slurring.
  • The single woman must be prepared at all times. Even if you know that the chance of your freshly waxed areas getting man exposure is zero, there is a certain confidence that comes from being good to go at a moment’s notice. Grooming (don’t you hate that word?) works in mysterious ways. I have a friend who is living with a man she first slept with solely because, that same day, she had shelled out for a very expensive seaweed wrap. The seaweed wrap made her a) more confident on account of her baby-soft skin, and b) absolutely determined not to waste her investment. So there’s a possible double incentive for grooming.
  • A woman who has a boyfriend can turn up to a party wearing a holey jumper, a ripped skirt and trodden-down ballet pumps and this woman will look bohemian and sexy. A single woman wearing exactly the same, on the same night, will look scruffy, grubby and, possibly, a bit unstable. People will look at her and think: “Poor Susie. She really has given up, hasn’t she?”

There is one unavoidable truth about clothes that many of us are still determinedly avoiding: if you want sex, then you need to dress with sex in mind. Dressing with sex in mind does not, repeat not, mean second-guessing men’s fantasies. That could work, but it will not work nearly as effectively as you wearing whatever you think is blindingly sexy, for two reasons:

  • a) A woman in slit satin skirt, fishnet tights, clingy top or similar will look like the reluctant deputy headmistress in the school charity performance if she simply isn’t that kind of girl.
  • b) Who knows what men find sexy? It’s different for all of them, and just when you think you have a handle on what they like, they’ll remind you it isn’t that simple. The look you really want to avoid (apart from goth) is what your mother might describe as “lovely”. Lovely is a bias-cut floral dress and kitten-heel slingbacks, wrap dresses worn with cashmere cardigans, and pastel ballerina tops over slinky skirts. Once, a long time ago, the brilliant Isabella Blow told me I must wear a hat if I wanted to find the One. “You have to stand out in a crowd. You have to let them see you,” she said. “And men love a hat. They see the hat and they want to meet the girl.”
I never got around to wearing a hat Isabella-style (shaped like a galleon, blocking out the sun), but I should have taken the point. You don’t have to put a ship on your head to get men to notice you, but if you spend a decade wearing black trouser suits to parties, don’t be surprised if they walk right past you to get to the girl with the parrot on her shoulder.( timesonline.co.uk )

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How to meet a man at 40 - ( 2 )


How to meet a man at 40 - ( 2 ). So you’ve dumped the List, or at least made a concerted effort to put aside your prejudices. Now what? First, a small pep talk: you need to be ready for this to happen. Long-term single women have been known to get hooked on keeping their options open.

You secretly like the feeling that something life-changing might be just around the corner. And the reason you — who travels solo, makes friends easily and never says no to adventure — need to rethink your future is because you may be ready to try everything and risk everything but your heart.


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GETTING IN THE ZONE

  • Assume that you are going to be having sex in the very near future. It generates that mixture of adrenaline and pheromones that people have been trying to bottle since the beginning of time.
  • Make the extra effort. If you go to the party wearing your second-hottest dress, because you are saving your No 1 dress and you’ve already decided that you’ll only stay for an hour, then you might as well not bother. You will not exude the right anything-is-possible glow and the One will look in your direction and think “Downer”.
  • Do something differently. Wear heels instead of flats, put on a slithery dress instead of jeans, do something unexpected with your hair (though obviously not involving an Alice band). You won’t necessarily look any better, but you will feel like you’ve changed up a gear. Part of the game (after a period of being overlooked) is believing you are definitely worth some attention, rather than passable in a low-lit environment.
  • Lose your friends. I know, this sounds like madness. Who has the single woman got if not her loyal girlfriends? Who is going to bung you in a cab at the end of the night and then ring to check you haven’t fallen asleep in the stairwell? Nonetheless, as much as you love them and need them, your friends will cramp your style. What you don’t need is one of them rolling her eyes as you nibble provocatively on the rim of your champagne glass, or another bellowing: “Go on, do your Hoffmeister bear impersonation!” Plus, if something should happen to develop when your friends are in the vicinity, you can expect them to react in one of the following ways: gawping, followed by circling at a not-discreet- enough distance, texting all your other mutual friends with updates on your progress; giving the double thumbs-up immediately behind his head; leaping in to help things along (Isn’t she just gorgeous. I just love her! Doesn’t she look amazing tonight? Isn’t this brilliant?). Alternatively, if drunk enough, they may start popping up behind sofas, sniggering. This stuff doesn’t change the older you get; if anything, it gets worse. So don’t automatically arrange to go to the party with a couple of girls or, once you get there, rush to find the people you’ve known all your life.
  • Pick your man. Don’t wait for him to find you. The One says he saw me steaming across the room, nostrils flared, elbowing women out of my path, but this is not true. I did spot him in the distance and then sort of worked my way across the room in his direction. But it’s true that I made it happen. And then, drum roll please, I did that thing happily single women so often forget to do. I set about making him like me (as opposed to waiting for him to prove to me that he was worth the trouble).
  • Flirt and then some. However much you think you are flirting, double it. What the hell, quadruple it. Barely-there flirting will register as average civility, if it registers at all. Singledom makes a girl cautious. She is preoccupied with not looking like a mad, sad, ticking man-huntress. Trust me, you need to be flirting at a level where you think, “Blimey, steady on, he’ll think I’m a pro”, before you can be confident that he has twigged you might quite like him.
SOME RULES OF FLIRTING
  • Be intensely interested in everything he says. Casting your eyes around is counterproductive, especially if you’re hunting the canapés.
  • Maintain eye contact for long enough that you are both in no doubt it is not accidental.
  • Be very impressed.
  • Tease, a bit, but not about any of the no-go areas — height, hair, lisp, mothers, his level of inebriation/sweating.
  • Flatter, but only lightly, in passing, and not more than once.
  • Don’t touch. You could lightly touch his forearm, maybe. But better not.
  • Disappear at some point. For roughly 10 minutes. You want him to have the chance to miss you.
  • Some say fiddle with your hair, your cleavage, your earrings. I say don’t risk looking like you have fleas. Don’t lick your lips/teeth under any circumstances. He may think you are chasing canapé particles.
  • Be extravagantly open about everything (bar medical stuff). Honesty is disarming.
  • Make him responsible for you. Say, “Would you get me another drink?”, “Would you let me lean on you while I do up my shoe”, “Would you tell me what you think about buying property when the subprime market is in collapse?” Just kidding. ( timesonline.co.uk )

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How to meet a man at 40 - ( 1 )


How to meet a man at 40 - ( 1 ). It doesn't get any easier the older you get. So just how do you win the dating game?. Before we get started, you need to know that the man you fall in love with will bear absolutely no resemblance to the man you were planning to fall in love with.

He will live an hour away from where you live, minimum. He will be wearing a shiny suit and, possibly, a brown shirt. And he’ll have the sort of baggage that requires its own baggage handler. This much you can guarantee.


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Because one of the reasons you are single (and this is the only one that is strictly your fault) is that you have written off every kind of man who might conceivably cross your path. You have built a fortress out of your preconditions and you are glowering down from the battlements. Men do approach from time to time, but then they see the vats of boiling oil teetering on the ramparts and think better of it.

As far as you are concerned, this fortress is a normal precaution for vetting prospective men, and so it was, initially. Then time passed, you settled into a routine and now you are mistress of the You Won’t Get Past Me checklist.

As it happens, I was set up with the One at a lunch three years before the party at which we officially met. The reason the lunch doesn’t count as the first meeting is because we barely spoke, and the reason we didn’t speak is because I ran his details through the List database and, in 0.2 seconds, it came up with a You Cannot Be Serious rating. Of course it did! The One was very recently divorced (not for me, thanks). He had three children in tow (uh-oh). I think he’d had a savage £5 haircut, and I’m almost certain he was wearing the brown shirt. So, at that first meeting, I summoned the List and the List gave me permission to do nothing.

This List, let’s be clear, is not made up of sensible broad guidelines such as must not be married or should live on same continent; it is extremely specific. Here are some edited highlights from my List, and I’m not making a word of it up:

  • Must have hair. Hair is good, but what if top of his List was “must have large breasts”? That puts a rather different complexion on it, doesn’t it?
  • Must not have ex-wife or children. Like the pool isn’t small enough as it is.
  • Must not wear fleeces. The bulky navy ones. I’m not going to budge on this one. Fleeces say you’re the kind of man who takes his wife to the pub for your anniversary dinner.
  • Must not wear short-sleeved shirts. See fleeces. Add golf/ cricket/rugby club to anniversary venue.
  • Must not wear jewellery. Although you can tell a lot from jewellery. Any man wearing a leather-thong necklace is certainly a narcissist who still imagines he could have been in the Rolling Stones. Pierced earrings past the age of 40 equal midlife-crisis man. Gold chains on a mahogany chest are the equivalent of the long little fingernail (just plain sleazy).
  • Must have a good job, but not one that requires him to get up at 5.30am and take a laptop on holiday.
  • Must not wear hoodies or V-neck sweaters with nothing underneath. Hoodies are for boys. And “nothing underneath” is another I Love Myself sign, only this time there’s also the suggestion of And I Am Hot in Bed.
  • Must not sing flat. This, too, I stand by.
  • Should play sports to fairly high standard. No excuse for this. It’s probably a hangover from school and the presex checklist of a boy’s fanciability.

When you think about it, this List would be more appropriate for an 18-year-old girl. Right now, and without any further ado, you need to abandon the List. Come on, there is nothing on your List that is genuinely non-negotiable. So you hate goatees, get him to shave it off. So you’re allergic to three-quarter-length trousers. Tell him. Liberate yourself. Start over. Not your type? Right, and that’s been such a success for you to date.

After much deliberation, these are the only up-front non-negotiables:

  • Must be kind. If you have heard him be vile about anyone, seen him be cruel to animals, children or boring hostesses, then this man is not kind.
  • Must like women. You think this goes without saying. Of course every man you’ve ever been out with has loved women. But are you absolutely sure? Did they like it if you contradicted them in public? Were there many women they found attractive who were a) over 50, b) large, or c) noisy? Thought not.
  • Must adore you.
  • Must be smarter than you, or at least as smart. Smarter, probably, or you will keep looking for that Achilles heel.
  • Must have bigger feet than you. Obviously. And must be hairier.
  • Must be able to make you laugh in all situations, including when you get to the airport and discover he has no passport.
  • You must fancy him unconditionally.
If you cannot put a tick next to all of the above, then I would seriously consider calling it off right now. ( timesonline.co.uk )

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Why Don't Employers Call Me Back?


Why Don't Employers Call Me Back?. Is there any worse confidence killer than rejection? I think it goes back to childhood, when you want a new bike for your birthday but you end up getting a pack of tube socks instead. You immediately wonder if you did something wrong and that's why you didn't get what you wanted.

Go forward a few years when you end up taking your cousin to the prom because everyone else turned you down. And the college years? Basically a parade of rejection that feels like an endless line of Rockette kicks to your confidence.

Or maybe that was just my experience.

Still, that same game of "Is it me or them?" continues well into adulthood as you begin searching for a job. You make a list of your best qualities, send them to employers, get dressed up and try to woo them in an interview. Then you wait. And wait. And wait. The phone never rings.

Job seekers want to know why they can seemingly do everything right, and yet, still they don't hear back from employers. We're not talking about getting turned down for the job -- we're talking about not even hearing a "Sorry, but the position has been filled." So we went to the source to find out.

Submitting the application

For a job seeker, the application process is full of anxiety and excitement. When you're looking for a job, each available position represents a possible new beginning. Before you've submitted an application, you've already daydreamed about your first day on the job. The problem is that to some employers, you're just one in a dozen. Or in some cases, one in 500.

"In the current market, if you post a job, you will get buried with résumés," says Matthew McMahon, partner at staffing firm McMahon Partners LLC. "Maybe 5 percent are in the ballpark." This means plenty of hiring managers spend their time reading irrelevant applications that don't help them find the right candidate. As a result, they have less time for you. "You simply don't have time to respond to [all applicants]."

To many job seekers this attitude may sound cold and impersonal. After all, behind each of these applications is a person waiting for a return call. McMahon cannot possibly respond to each one individually, but he does take the time to reach out to applicants who show promise.

"If somebody is close, but slightly off target, I will usually take the time to give them a call, learn about what they are looking for, tell them about the sort of roles I fill, and keep the notes for future use," he says.

How about the ones who miss the mark completely?

"If the person isn't even close (or has not read the description), I don't bother spending the time because they are obviously applying for everything," he says. Take that as further proof that throwing your application at every open position and hoping to have some success is not the way to conduct a job search.

Can you expect any changes soon?

OK, so that's how things are now, but can job seekers expect to have a more personal interaction with the hiring managers in the future? Possibly, says Caitrin O'Sullivan of iCIMS, a provider of software for human resource companies to track recruiting activity and applications.

"If an organization, especially a medium or large one, were not leveraging an applicant tracking system, it's difficult for job seekers to understand the magnitude of applications flooding recruiters [and] HR managers' desks -- especially during a period of high unemployment," O'Sullivan explains. "Just visually scanning through all of these résumés can take hours upon hours of manpower. To have to communicate with every one of those applicants on top of that would be a truly formidable task."

That's not to say things will always be that way. As someone on the forefront of tracking technology, O'Sullivan sees an increase in interest among companies that can and do keep job seekers updated at regular intervals.

"As more and more organizations are investing in and leveraging HR technology and [applicant tracking systems], it is much easier for the HR team to automate and streamline that process and enable applicants to be aware of their status within the review process," O'Sullivan says. Although not all employers use tools that allow for such tracking, it's something that iCIMS has provided to human resources departments to benefit job seekers.

Until everyone gets on board, don't expect to hear back from employers to learn where you stand. You're always free to call an employer to check on the status of your application or to see if the position has been filled. As long as you are courteous and don't pester them, most companies will let you know one way or the other. ( msn.com )



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Five Things You Need to Tell Hiring Managers


Five Things You Need to Tell Hiring Managers. Competition in the job market is fierce, and if you hope to land a new position, you must stand out from the crowd -- but for the right reasons. You want to provide hiring managers with a positive impression, so here are a few messages you should get across right from the start.

1. "I'm professional."

Potential hires who take the application process seriously will be treated similarly by prospective employers. This means, for example, proofreading your application materials for grammatical or spelling errors. It never hurts to have someone else review your cover letter and résumé as well, in case you overlook something. Also, be careful with the type of language you use. Remember that your application materials are business documents, so avoid slang or casual speech, such as the kind you might use when text messaging with your friends.

2. "I'm a go-getter."

Because hiring managers are being inundated with résumés, your application materials may get only a cursory glance. That's why you need to take some initiative. For instance, when you initially contact the employer, instead of ending your cover letter or e-mail with a standard statement like, "I look forward to hearing from you," be proactive. Try: "I will contact you next Thursday at 3 p.m. to discuss the opportunity and my fit for the position in greater detail."

Also, unless you're specifically asked not to, follow up with an employer if you haven't heard back after sending in your résumé. In fact, 82 percent of executives polled by Robert Half International said job seekers should contact hiring managers within two weeks of submitting application materials. By doing so, you can reassert your interest in the position and remain at the top of the hiring manager's mind.

3. "I'm an expert."

Employers want to hire people who can hit the ground running. That's why you need to demonstrate your expertise from the beginning. Three great methods for doing so are enhancing your online reputation, joining a professional association and earning a certification.

Options for increasing your exposure include starting a professional blog or Web site, submitting articles to an industry publication or even simply contributing to message boards. For instance, blogging about the industry that you want to work in and including the blog's link on your résumé give prospective employers an easy way to see that you are well-informed.

By joining industry groups and trade associations, you can remain up-to-date with recent trends through interaction with others in the field. Use your résumé to highlight your membership in a professional group and show hiring managers your interest in furthering your industry knowledge.

Finally, consider earning a relevant industry certification. Many employers value candidates who have these credentials because they demonstrate a desire for continual professional development.

4. "I can save your company money."

In today's economy, companies are looking for ways to reduce costs. If you've implemented successful cost-cutting measures for previous employers, describe how you did so in your résumé or cover letter. For example, when applying for a role as an administrative assistant, you might note that in your last position, you helped renegotiate your company's contract with an office supplies vendor, reducing spending in this area by 10 percent. Hiring managers will take notice of these types of accomplishments.

5. "I can fill your need."

To show that you are an exact fit for an open role, make sure your application materials are targeted to each position and company. Use phrases from the job description within your résumé and cover letter, so long as they accurately describe your experience. Many employers use software programs that scan application materials for relevant keywords, so even if you are qualified but don't use the employer's terminology, your résumé may never be seen.

Sending the right messages to a prospective employer may not guarantee that you are offered the job, but it will increase your chances of being called for an interview. Then, you can make your case in person. ( msn.com )



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Four Ways to Simplify Your Job Search


Four Ways to Simplify Your Job Search. It seems like everyone is obsessed with doing things faster and more efficiently these days. Consider, for example the 30-minute meal or 15-minute workout programs that have taken the country by storm. Why the craze? Because these routines cut out the fluff, are easy to follow and promise positive results. While preparing a delicious meal in under an hour or toning your abs in five easy steps may save you time in your personal life, how about a program that benefits your professional prospects? Job searching can be an overwhelming and time-consuming task, so take heed of the following fundamentals, which can help make the process more efficient and productive:

1. Avoid verbosity when writing your résumé.

Job seekers can spend hours crafting their résumés, but according to a survey by Robert Half International, 56 percent of executives spend no more than five minutes reading the document, making it that much more important to present one that's succinct, relevant and free of copy errors. While the one-page rule is no longer strictly enforced, you don't want to inundate the reader with too much information. Use short bullet points when listing your skills and achievements, and avoid lofty and redundant language, puns, and clever wordplays. Remember, this isn't an exercise in creative writing. Also omit irrelevant facts about your personal life, such as your interests and hobbies, unless they relate specifically to the position.

2. Compose a clean, concise cover letter.

Similar to the résumé, brevity is key when it comes to crafting a cover letter. Skip cute introductions -- "Teamwork is my middle name" or "I am smart as a whip," for example -- and instead get to the point. Expand on one or two accomplishments from your résumé that align with the skills and responsibilities outlined in the job description. Painting a vivid picture of these select successes should compel hiring managers to learn about the rest of the achievements outlined on your résumé.

3. Network in a 'not-so-obvious' way.

Increasing your circle of professional contacts doesn't have to be a formal affair, but it should be an ongoing priority. In addition to getting involved in professional associations and other networking groups, focus on meeting people while doing everyday activities. Try striking up a conversation with those around you, from the coffee shop barista to the person sitting next to you at the doctor's office. These discussions can lead to job leads or other valuable contacts.

4. Don't be afraid to go overboard for the interview.

If there's one stage in the job search where you can pull out all the stops, it's the interview. You may have impressed the hiring manager on paper, but you'll have to shine in person, too, if you expect to land the job. Here are the essentials:

  • Research the company and role-play with a partner beforehand.

  • Arrive to the meeting on time, looking your professional best and armed with a copy of your résumé and references.

  • Mention at least two key accomplishments that demonstrate hard-to-measure qualities -- like teamwork or leadership -- that aren't apparent on your résumé.

  • Send a thank-you note to reinforce your interest and ability to excel in the role within a few days of the meeting. With everything from cell phones to computers becoming more complex, the last thing busy professionals need is for the job search to be overly complicated. While you don't want to rush through the process, paring each step down to the most important elements can help you focus your efforts and increase the likelihood of success. ( msn.com )


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    Focus on Job Descriptions, Not Job Titles


    Focus on Job Descriptions, Not Job Titles. For the last decade, some universities have come under fire for giving students too many A's. If students have low GPAs, their career prospects will suffer and universities will look like an institution of underperformers, critics charge.

    Still, wouldn't churning out class after class of honor students result in a pool of professionals with impressive credentials but little actual merit? You'd think so.

    Whether or not that's actually happening on campuses across the country is hard to say, but a variation seems to occur in workplaces.

    "Many job seekers don't realize how much title inflation there is at some companies, and how much title definition variance there is in the marketplace," says John Nicholson, CEO of Résumés That Jump, a résumé writing service. At his previous company, marketing coordinators had major responsibilities, such as managing multimillion-dollar budgets and working on high-profile partnerships.

    He knows that at similar companies, they could have had fluffier job titles, like "senior marketing manager," but they'd also have fewer responsibilities.

    "When it comes to résumés and job interviews, titles are a lot less important than what you've accomplished and what you can bring to an employer," Nicholson says.

    Of course, that's all well and good to say, but won't your ego take a hit if you have many responsibilities and an unassuming title -- especially when you walk into an interview? Just decide what you want and act accordingly, says Ann Latham, author of "Clear Thoughts -- Pragmatic Gems of Better Business Thinking."

    "If you are looking for an identity, job titles are paramount," Latham says. "In that case, I recommend a small company where you can get a big title sooner. Or try [a company] where almost everyone is a VP."

    Take a different tack if you want something more substantial.

    "But if you are looking for a position that will provide [a] challenge, satisfaction and growth opportunities, job titles are meaningless," Latham says. "It is the responsibilities and the opportunities that count. These are what will drive your day-to-day activities and your learning."

    Employers aren't dumb

    Job seekers often forget one of the most important details of a job search: Employers have been where you are, and they helped make you what you are. In other words, employers are aware of inflated job titles, too. They are the ones who created the titles, after all. Therefore, on your job search, approach listings with the same skepticism as employers.

    Keep this in mind

    Laurent Duperval, president of Duperval Consulting, suggests the following tips for focusing on job descriptions and not job titles:

    Titles are often more fiction than fact

    "Somebody had to put up a job posting [and] had no idea what to call the position, so they made up a name. The name may not have anything to do with the actual job," Duperval warns.

    Egos beget titles

    "Because people attach so much of their self-esteem to their titles, companies have had to change the names of the same jobs, just to make it seem like a more important position," Duperval says. "Secretary, which used to be a fine title, has been replaced by 'administrative assistant'; a janitor is now a 'sanitation engineer'; and so on. No matter what the name, you still have to file, open mail and type letters, or sweep the floors, clean the toilets and keep the place clean."

    If you're looking for work that falls under the secretary or administrative assistant label, do you honestly care what the title is? If you have the appropriate experience, the company culture suits you and the compensation is in line with your goals, it would be silly to turn it down.

    Titles are not transferable

    "A title in one company means something completely different in another company," Duperval cautions. "In some companies, everybody and his dog is a director. In other companies, directors have large, multimillion-dollar accounts and are responsible for hundreds of employees. You just never know." ( msn.com )



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    Ten Things That Will Get You Hired


    Ten Things That Will Get You Hired. Do you want to extend your time looking for a job? Of course not. Candidates are always on the lookout for the most efficient, effective way to find new work. The following tips -- when heeded during the job search and interview processes -- can make job hunting go by faster:

    1. Customize your résumé and cover letter.

    It might seem faster to blast off generic materials to dozens of employers, but this will cost you time in the long run. Tailor your résumé and cover letter to each open position to clearly demonstrate how your experience fills the employers' requirements. For example, if you're applying for a public relations role, give your PR experience a prime spot on your résumé.


    2. Diversify your search.

    If you've been responding to newspaper ads with no response, also post your résumé online, search some job Web sites, talk to your friends and attend an industry trade show. The more ways you search, the more likely you are to connect with the right employers.


    3. Don't go solo.

    Your friends, family and former co-workers each have a network of their own -- and a friend-of-a-friend might hold the perfect lead. Don't be shy: Reach out to your network and let your contacts know you're on the job market.


    4. Find a company where you fit in.

    Browse potential employers' Web sites and ask your friends about what it's like to work at their companies. Employers are looking for candidates who would be a good fit and thrive within the company culture.


    5. Don't get discouraged.

    Experts estimate the average job search to last anywhere between three and 10 months -- and that means a lot of rejection. Keep at it: Your dream job is out there.


    6. Always be prepared.

    You can never be too prepared for your first meeting with a potential employer. Before your interview, always browse the company's Web site. Find out as much as you can about the company's products, leadership, mission and culture, and prepare answers to common interview questions.


    7. Be on time.

    Whether it's an informational interview, an open house or a formal interview, always arrive about 10 minutes early. Allow plenty of time for traffic and poor weather.


    8. Dress and act the part.

    In a business setting, always dress in professional clothing in the best quality you can afford. Take the industry and employer into consideration, but a business suit is almost always appropriate for interviews.


    9. Listen more than you talk.

    Even if you're nervous at an interview, try not to ramble. By keeping your mouth shut, you can learn valuable information about the company and avoid saying something that you'll wish you hadn't.


    10. Ask good questions.

    At the end of an interview, the employer will inevitably ask if you have any questions. Have a list of questions prepared that showcase your company research and interest in the position. ( msn.com )



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    President Wahid dies


    Former Indonesian President Wahid dies . Former Indonesian President Abdurrahman Wahid has died aged 69, according to party officials.

    Wahid, who was often referred to by his nickname Gus Dur, ruled the country between 1999 and 2001.

    He was the first elected president after the fall of the 32-year Suharto regime in 1998.

    Wahid had been suffering from a number of medical problems in recent years. He was a diabetic and was known to have had a series of strokes.


    Former Indonesian President Abdurrahman Wahid ( file photo)

    Abdurrahman Wahid had been frail for some time and was nearly blind


    Short tenure

    "Gus Dur just passed away," Lukman Edy from Wahid's National Awakening Party told reporters.

    According to local television reports he died of heart failure, but this has not yet been confirmed.

    Wahid - a partially blind Muslim cleric - came to power after defeating Megawati Sukarnoputri in a general election in October 1999.

    Educated in Indonesia, Egypt, Iraq and Canada, he had a reputation for religious tolerance and moderate politics.

    But he had not been in the job long before his opponents accused him of failing to tackle the economic crisis, and failing to resolve secessionist conflicts in several provinces of Indonesia.

    In July 2001, less than two years into the job, he was sacked by the country's national assembly amid unproven allegations of corruption and incompetence.( bbc.co.uk )



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    20 proven benefits of exercise


    20 proven benefits of exercise. A 30-minute walk every day can do more for your long-term health than all the efforts of a dozen doctors and their medication.

    Not only does exercise improve your health, even if you have already been diagnosed with something, but it can go a long way to prevent the onset of several life-threatening conditions, such as heart disease, diabetes and cancer.

    And exercise can make you look great – younger, fitter and thinner. Who needs any more convincing?

    We have scrutinised the medical journals. Here's a summary of the proven health benefits of exercise:

    1. It's good for your heart

    "Even a moderate amount of exercise helps your heart," says Dr William Kraus, associate professor of medicine at Duke University Medical Centre, in an article published in The New England Journal of Medicine. "Some exercise is better than none and more is better than less."

    Exercise reduces LDL cholesterol, the kind that clogs arteries. It also reduces your blood pressure, relieving stress on your heart; improves your insulin sensitivity; improves heart muscle function; and blood flow and diminishes the chances of developing blood clots. These findings have been corroborated by a host of studies over the years.

    2. Exercise promotes weight loss

    Research has shown that to manage weight, you should exercise energetically for at least 30 minutes a day. You can also do an hour of intensive exercise every second day if this fits into your schedule more easily. Be consistent and be regular. Do those one-hour exercise sessions three to four times every week, not just one week a month, and you will achieve the result you desire - to lose weight and keep it off, says Dr Ingrid van Heerden, registered dietician.

    3. Exercise prevents osteoporosis

    Exercise, together with a healthy calcium intake, builds strong bones. Weight-bearing exercises, like running, walking and weight-lifting, help lower your odds of getting osteoporosis as you grow older, according to experts.

    Ideally, you should start when you're young, but it's never too late to pick up the habit. Even a brisk walk can help, say metabolic disease specialists.

    4. Exercise lowers high blood pressure

    Exercise is good for your blood pressure - no matter your age, weight, race or gender. And it really doesn't matter whether you get exercise from a brisk walk, a fast run or a few laps in the pool; the results are equally good.

    The studies on which these findings were based used "aerobic" exercise - activities that increase heart rate and improve the body's ability to use oxygen. Most of the studies involved participating in one or more aerobic activity for 20 - 30 minutes per session, several times a week.

    On average, exercise helped study participants reduce systolic (top number) pressure by nearly 4 mm Hg, and diastolic (bottom number) pressure by slightly more than 2.5 mm Hg. But experts caution that those with extremely high blood pressure should not rely on exercise alone to control hypertension.

    5. Exercise is an excellent de-stressor

    It's general knowledge: exercise counters stress and depression. But exactly how and why does this work?

    Exercise acts as a temporary diversion to daily stresses and it improves self-esteem. Increased core temperature during exercise may lead to reduced muscle tension and favourable alterations in brain neurotransmitters. Mood improvements may also occur due to the increased secretion of endogenous (internal) opiates, e.g. endorphins. Psychological changes may occur because of changes in norepinephrine, dopamine and serotonin, all hormones which can affect mood and anxiety levels.

    6. Exercise prevents colds

    One doesn't automatically associate regular exercise with a reduction in the number of colds people get. But researchers from the University of Carolina found that people who exercised regularly were 23% less likely to get colds than those who exercised less. And if those who exercised got colds, the symptoms disappeared more quickly than in the study participants who did little exercise.

    Health experts believe that exercise spikes the immune system for a few hours each day, helping to ward off colds. Thirty minutes of brisk walking is enough to make you reap the benefits of exercise.

    7. Exercise reduces the severity of asthma

    Many people who suffer from exercise-induced asthma, understandably try to avoid exercise. But sports medicine specialists say it's possible for asthmatics to continue exercising if they use preventive medications wisely and avoid certain triggers that exacerbate attacks. Exercise-induced asthma can be made worse by cold, dry air or air containing high levels of pollen or pollutants. The extra effort made to stay fit pays off in fewer or milder asthma attacks overall and a need for less medication.

    Experts recommend swimming as one of the best exercises for people with asthma.

    8. Exercise reduces diabetic complications

    Lifestyle factors have a huge impact on certain conditions – and diabetes is one of them. Exercise can help to reduce your insulin requirements, lower your cholesterol levels and high blood pressure, and in the long term can reduce the development of heart disease and stroke. This is important because diabetics have a higher risk of developing heart and circulatory problems. Exercise can also promote weight loss, improve circulation and reduce stress levels (raising your glucose level).

    9. Exercise promotes a healthy pregnancy

    Although exercise might be risky in some cases, the benefits of exercising during pregnancy generally far outweigh the risks and some women can even exercise up until the third trimester. Relaxation exercises, Kegel exercise that strengthen the pelvic muscles and back exercises are all important for pregnant women.

    10. Exercise plays a role in preventing cancer

    At least 35% of all cancer deaths may be related to overweight and lack of activity, the Seattle Cancer Research Centre has found. Exercise is believed to speed the passage of food through the colon, thereby reducing the amount of time that any toxins are in contact with the body. Overweight people also tend to have more insulin, which promotes the growth of tumours. For women, exercise reduces the level of oestrogen, a hormone linked to breast cancer.

    11. Exercise has anti-ageing effects

    Exercise enhances blood flow to the brain, possibly reducing risk of stroke. It also improves reasoning and memory.

    Regular exercise arouses the brain and slows down degeneration of the central nervous system, which leads to slower reaction times and poorer coordination.

    Exercise also increases strength and size of muscles and improves lung function. Regular exercise can reduce body fat and lower the risk of chronic lifestyle diseases in the elderly. Recent literature suggests that the greatest threat to health is not the aging process itself, but rather inactivity.

    12. Exercise promotes brain health

    If you thought exercising your brain meant only doing a few crossword puzzles or learning a language, you may be wrong – rather put on your walking shoes and get moving. This was the finding of researchers from the University of Illinois.

    Their study found that the brain responses in active seniors were comparable to those of young adults.

    It is thought that exercise increases the flow of blood to the brain, just as it improves circulation to the heart and the rest of the body. Activity also stimulates the growth of nerve cells in the part of the brain involved in memory.

    13. Exercise is great for your sex life.

    The medical research points towards it: the fitter you are, the better your sex life is.

    The reason seems to be two-fold: psychologically you feel better about yourself and more inclined towards sex, and physically, being fit improves libido, blood circulation and sexual functioning.

    It has been said before that the brain may be the most important sexual organ. This is because stressed, anxious and depressed people are usually unable to enjoy a healthy sex life. Additionally, people with a bad body image do not feel good about their bodies and often avoid sex or are unable to truly enjoy it.

    According to the American Council on Exercise (ACE), being physically active can be “a natural Viagra boost”. “Men and women who exercise regularly are going to have increased levels of desire. They’re going to have enhanced confidence, enhanced ability to achieve orgasm and greater sexual satisfaction,” says Cedric Bryant, the council’s chief exercise physiologist.

    14. Exercise improves sleeping patterns

    Relaxation exercises will help you to ease tension and relieve headaches, backaches and insomnia. Exercise releases the body's own painkillers, called endorphins, into your system. It also helps you to gain a sense of emotional wellbeing and a feeling of being more in control.

    Exercise during the day promotes the onset and quality of sleep, according to the South African Memory Resource Centre. But you need to exercise at the right time: the ideal time for exercise is in the morning. Exercising late in the day can contribute to sleeplessness, because exercise causes an increase in your body's energy.

    15. Exercise combats impotence

    If you stop and think about it, it makes sense - increased circulation as a result of exercise should result in lower levels of impotence, as getting an erection is dependent on the efficiency of blood circulating to the penis.

    "Losing weight, stopping smoking and doing more exercise are associated with better sexual health," says Dr Andrew McCullough, director of Male Sexual Health, Fertility and Microsurgery at New York University Medical Center in New York City. "We talk so much about treating, treating, treating. Here we're beginning to see an increasing body of evidence that we can modify the appearance of this by changing lifestyle."

    16. Exercise helps prevent stroke

    Need another reason to make good on that long overdue promise to get more exercise? It can dramatically cut your risk of stroke.

    "Highly active" people had a 27 percent lower risk of having a stroke or dying if they had one, compared with sedentary folks. And people who were "moderately active" had a 20 percent lower risk.

    These findings are based on a review of 23 international studies that appear in the October issue of the journal Stroke, the Associated Press reports.

    Jogging 15 to 20 minutes a day most days would qualify as highly active. Brisk walks of 30 minutes a day on most days would qualify as moderate activity, the AP says.

    17. Exercise is good for mind and soul.

    In a synopsis on “Exercise, Fitness and Mental Health” (1990), sports psychologist D.R.Brown summarised the possible beneficial effects that exercise has on mental health. These include the following:

    • Exercise may act as a temporary diversion to daily stresses.
    • Exercise provides an opportunity for social interaction that may otherwise be lacking in an individual’s life.
    • Exercise provides an opportunity for self-mastery. Increasing fitness or improving body composition and other health parameters may improve an individual’s self-esteem.
    • Increased core temperature during exercise may lead to reduced muscle tension or alterations to brain neurotransmitters.
    • Mood improvements may occur due to the increased secretion of endogenous (internal) opiates e.g. endorphins
    • Psychological changes may occur due to alterations in norepinephrine, dopamine and serotonin, all hormones which can affect mood and anxiety level.

    18. Exercise improves oxygen and nutrient supply to all cells in your body.

    An American study indicates that ‘80-plus-ers’ can dramatically improve their health by exercising a few times a week. If this is true for elderly people, it certainly is for the younger set as well.

    Exercise improves the body's utilisation of oxygen, and lowers systolic blood pressure (high pressure is a dangerous condition common in elderly people).

    Positive results were obtained from the 22 elderly people (80 years and older) who took part in the study at the Veterans Affairs Ann Arbor Healthcare System in Michigan.

    19. Exercise allows you to improve muscle strength, joint structure and joint function

    Strengthening exercises increase not only muscle strength and mass, but also bone strength, and the body's metabolism.

    A certain level of muscle strength is needed to function every day and do things such as walking and climbing stairs. Strengthening exercises increase this muscle strength by putting more strain on a muscle than it is normally accustomed to receiving. This increased load stimulates the growth of proteins inside each muscle cell that allow the muscle as a whole to contract.

    Exercise can promote joint health for everyone, but particularly for people who suffer from arthritis. Arthritis is a general term for over 100 different conditions that cause pain, stiffness and often inflammation in one or more joints. Exercise can reduce some arthritis symptoms and improve joint mobility and strength.

    Osteoarthritis is the most common form of arthritis. Normally, the two bones of a joint are cushioned with a strong flexible tissue called cartilage. In osteoarthritis, the cartilage deteriorates, causing pain and stiffness.

    Cartilage doesn't have a blood supply; it relies on synovial fluid moving in and out of the joint to nourish it and take away waste products. Exercise helps this process.

    20. Exercise helps to manage arthritis

    Regular, intensive exercise for patients with rheumatoid arthritis builds muscle strength and aerobic capacity, improves the ability to do daily tasks and fosters a sense of well-being.

    That's the conclusion of a study by Dutch researchers who tracked 300 people with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) for two years. About half the patients participated in a one-hour exercise regimen twice weekly; the rest received traditional treatment, including physical therapy, if prescribed by their physicians.

    The findings, appearing in journal Arthritis & Rheumatism, suggest high-intensity exercise programmes can benefit many RA patients, says researcher Dr Thea Vlieland of Leiden University Medical Centre.

    The positive effects on muscle strength and aerobic capacity could be translated into an improvement in the activities of daily living, and this is what really makes a difference in your life, Vlieland says. ( health24.com )


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